Alt-text from XKCD: “I can’t remember where I heard this, but someone once said that defending a position by citing free speech is sort of the ultimate concession; you’re saying that the most compelling thing you can say for your position is that it’s not literally illegal to express.”
Kirsten and Zoe hit the nail on the head with their segment on sexist double standards in Unilever’s advertising and they’ve done it again, focusing on gendered marketing and pointlessly gendered products.
A lot of the hubub over “Mary-Hate” by Pro-Mary people has been under the guise of feminism,— as if the only reason one might not like her character is because they are inherently misogynist. Or, we’re rabid Johnlockers, who are also self-hating anti-feminist women who can’t stand somebody in the way of our ship.
Actually, this, right here— is my reason.
SHERLOCK: Yours. (A little angrily) Why didn’t you come to me in the first place?
MARY: Because John can’t ever know that I lied to him. It would break him and I would lose him forever – and, Sherlock, I will never let that happen.
(He turns as if to walk away. She takes a step towards him.)
MARY: Please …
(He turns back to her.)
MARY: … understand. There is nothing in this world that I would not do to stop that happening.
SHERLOCK (turning away): Sorry.
(He walks to the fuse box and puts his hand onto one of the switches before looking back towards her.)
SHERLOCK: Not that obvious a trick.
This is why she shot Sherlock.
And this tells me that she is a horrible example of what is acceptable to do to someone in the name of love. She’s an example of an extremely cynical view of women in relationships— how we all lose our minds when we are in love, and when that love is threatened, we can become..well, homicidal.
She’s an example of, “all that’s needed to make a bad woman good, is a good man”.
She’s an example of women betraying friends over a man.
There’s a generation of young girls watching this show, and watching her, and thinking maybe— that’s it’s okay to hurt someone badly, if it’s to protect your relationship.
It’s the lying, the betrayal, the bullying—- the never taking the consequences for one’s own actions— never being held accountable—
How is this a role model for women? How is she representative of feminism?
You want a great female role model? Try Lagertha, from the Vikings. Wife, mother, bad-ass— with integrity.
I know I’m risking a backlash again but this makes so much sense.
I’m still so so angry at the way they portrayed Mary in HLV. When we first met her, I instantly fell in love with her. She was smart and didn’t take no shit from Sherlock but knew how to handle both him and John and she knew how important Sherlock is to John. I really thought we finally had gotten a female character that wasn’t just a tool, but was important in her own right.
And then HLV happened. Her actions and her being Magnussen’s tool are problematic on so many levels. But they aren’t any news. The show has been problematic from the beginning. Sherlock and John have a quiet unhealthy relationship, which the “generation of young girls” watching it glorify and will probably include in their view of how a relationship should be.
"the lying, the betrayal, the bullying—- the never taking the consequences for one’s own actions— never being held accountable—" - all of this has always been there in Sherlock’s character. So there’s nothing new here either. One could argue that Mary being a woman influences said girls more, but I believe the "damage" has already been done since season 1.
look if you unironically say ‘money can’t buy happiness’ then either you’ve never faced a real financial struggle or you’ve achieved enlightenment, because goddamn does financial security feel an awful lot like happiness when it’s something you’re not used to
freedom of speech means that the government is not allowed to tell you to shut the fuck up. it doesn’t mean that i am not allowed to tell you to shut the fuck up.
It basically means you can’t be PERSECUTED for voicing your opinion, as long as it doesn’t “harm” other people. “Hate speech” for example is excluded from freedom of speech in a lot of countries. So telling someone to kill themselves because you don’t agree with their sexuality does NOT fall under the freedom of speech!
It really bugs me when you hear young kids being sexist or racist or homophobic because like they’re just kids and they’ve already been infected with other people’s bullshit.
"stop pushing your gay agenda on children", "stop pushing your feminist views on children"
here’s the thing:
- respect sex workers, but
- do not defend the porn industry
Living as a queer women taught me that.
Feminism made me believe that the world can change.
THIS! So much of this! Growing up as a girl I couldn’t believe how broken and unequal the world was. I couldn’t believe that that was the way it would always be because I didn’t want to live in a world that constantly told me I was less for being a girl. Growing up people talked down upon feminists for speaking up so I didn’t even look into it because I didn’t want to be seen as more weird.
But when I finally started looking into it it gave me back the strength to speak up for myself. To continue trying to make the world less brokes, less corrupt, less harmful. It showed me that things can change for the better if only we don’t give up.
Alright, let me just say this : Europe is not your all-white wet dream.
England is not white, France is not white, Germany is not white, Norway is not fucking white. There are POC living in these countries, ones who just immigrated five years ago, ones who have been there since childhood, ones who were born there, ones whose families have been living there for more than a century or even since the middle ages. So please put a stop to the ‘movie takes place in Germany/Norway/Denmark so there should be only white people argument’ : it is false, it is misinformed, and it is racist.
Europe has always been diverse. Yes, a lot of people who live in northern Europe are white, but there are also tons of people who are NOT white. And I’m pretty sure movie makers know that. So they are deliberately excluding these people.
"guess we cant have different opinions on tumblr"
nah son. an opinion is like “orange juice is nasty” or “fall out boy is overrated”
"your gender identity is ridiculous and you dont deserve to have it respected" is straight up bullshit and you should be called out on it